Originally Posted by
Cowboy
Yes it is, but if you don't know how you want to behave (which is the only part of where I am proposing expectations) how can you expect to improve?
Alot of the social problems that I see us as having (substance abuse, suicide, marriage breakdown etc) are all expressions of coping with stress poorly. We could improve things simply by learning to manage stress well. Currently our thinking on improving most of these social issues is to remove the risk (run from them), I think that we need to learn how to face them, as I have had to. One of the facts of life is bad things do happen. For an adult who has been taught that the way we manage our fears is to run from them (be it physically or mentally) it is little wonder that we can't help them, and they don't feel that they can get help from us.
From my perspective people are too bloody scared to face fears which simply are not logical and we are not behaving as adults.